Grudges or resentment are often described as poison, slowly weakening the person who cannot let go.
But that's not just a metaphor. Some medical researchers believe it can take a toll on you physically.
Johns Hopkins hospital describes it as being in constant fight-or-flight mode.
This causes constant changes to your heart rate, blood pressure, and immune system.
When those three things are on a roller coaster, the rest of your body suffers.
Psychologists say refusing to forgive and let go... Messes with your mental health as well.
People who hang onto grudges are more likely to go through severe depression and PTSD.
To err is human, to forgive divine, and forgiving will probably make you feel better.
The good news is that you can change this behavior and ultimately, your health.
If forgiving others doesn't come easily for you, try practicing the Reach Forgiveness model which the study says calms stress levels.
- Recalling the incident that hurt you
- Empathizing with the person who wronged you
- Thinking of forgiving that person as an altruistic gift
- Committing yourself to forgive them
- Holding onto that forgiveness without taking it back
One study published in the International Journal of Psychology suggests that the more you pray, the more forgiving you can become.
But no matter how you are able to do it, remember, forgiveness is essential and will heal your heart in the process.